Money or family?

Mom came for a visit today! Yaaaay! We took a long walk, sat down for coffee and talked… A LOT.

Me with some of the dancers at a Christmas party
Me with some of the dancers at a Christmas party
Mom and dad started a dance school back in 1994. I’ve been a dancer since day 1, starting when I was only ten years old. Mom and dad worked together until 2010 when dad passed away. That’s when I left the big city and came back home to live with mom.

I started helping out at the dance school. At first I only taught dance class two nights a week, but then quickly moved up to five nights a week, then more. I also had a full-time job. I left for work at eight in the morning, got off work at five-thirty, and turned the music on at the dance hall at six. We’d finish at seven and I’d be home by seven-thirty – unless of course I was doing two groups that night. And if there was a dance contest or other event coming soon, I got even busier.

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My short thoughts on business and passion

Okay, remember I’m a big House fan? I am. To the point where it might get a little… creepy.

I’ve watched so many episodes that I actually notice weird little details. Somewhere along Season 5, I had paused my GOM player to get some grapes to snack on. As I came back to the frozen frame, I had a lightbulb moment.

“Hey, look at all the stuff in that frame! There’s a cane, a desk, a computer, and Cameron’s making a regular unisex scrub look sexy!,” I thought while shamelessly stuffing my mouth with grapes. “Somebody made all that stuff. There’s a business behind each of those items!”

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Racism and business? Restaurant owner saved business by keeping blacks away

This is a story I found on . It’s so fascinating that I just had to share it with you guys.

Original link:

reddit_logoI’ll get it out of the way and admit that what I am doing is racist, I myself am (reluctantly!) a racist, and I’m not about to argue that. I’m not proud of this, but I did what I had to to stay afloat for the sake of my family and my employees and I would do it again.

I own a family restaurant that competes with large chains like Applebee’s, Chili’s, and other similarly awful places. I started this restaurant over 20 years ago, my wife is our manager*, both of my kids work here when they’re not in college. Our whole life is tied up in this place, and while it’s a ton of hard work, we love it.

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My husband and I want to start our own business… here’s why we can’t

just usMy husband and I want to start a business some day.

Right now, I work a nine-to-five. He works in shifts. Our time off doesn’t overlap a lot. We get a fairly decent pay and we make it work for now. But to be honest? At that rate, we’ll never be able to get ahead. We’ll be enslaved to our jobs for life.

We don’t have a problem with hard work. We know that startups take a lot of work – we each have had a failed try at starting a business – so we don’t mind working long hours. We’re doing it already at our jobs. But we think that having our own thing will let us work those long hours together and also pay more than a dayjob.

Is starting a business the only way to our goal of being together more? Let’s see.

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Business success = failure + quitting

Michael Jordan shooting
Michael Jordan shooting

It’s the finals at a World Championship and everything depends on this one shot you’re about to make. TV camearas are broadcasting your success – or failure – to billions of people. The fans are roaring, your coach is holding his breath, and you know your father’s watching. Your heart is pumping crazy, your hair’s wet with sweat. You have a split second to decide what to do – shoot or pass? Shoot or pass? SHOOT OR PASS?

In a flash you remember the quote, “You miss 100% of the shots you never take.” You shoot.

You miss.


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Social skills and money


House MD
Dr. House

So I’ve been hooked on HOUSE lately (“it’s not Lupus!”, tee-hee-hee!). Love the show!

Now, anyone who’s watched at least one episode would know that Dr. House, while a brilliant doctor, is not much of a people-person. In Season 2, a patient comments:

Patient: “House must be a great doctor.”

Dr. Foreman: “Why would you assume that?”

Patient: “When you’re that big a jerk, you’re either great or unemployed.”


Social skills (people skills) are what you use for interacting with other people. They help you distinguish between when to speak and when to keep silent, what to say and how to say it; they also help you “read” the other person by picking up on hidden signals beyond the verbal.

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Kill a Darling

Decapitated man with head in hand
Picture: Google, Decapitated man with head in hand

“Кill your darlings, kill your darlings, even when it breaks your egocentric little [..] heart, kill your darlings.”

This advice is well-known among writers (Stephen King, “On writing”), and it means to cut out all “extra” words from your text. To writers, each word is our own flesh and blood, a darling, and killing one hurts like hell. Oh yes it does.

The same applies to business. A start-up is made of ideas, the entrepreneurs’ own flesh and blood, their darlings. AND these “darlings” are supposed to make money.

But what if they don’t?

Killing a business-idea or prematurely ending a business-project – just because it’s not turning enough profit – is a tough-tough job. Yes, business is about money, but come on – your business is your baby! You’ve given it birth, nurtured it, held its infant hand while it took its first steps in the big scary world.

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